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We need perspective
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- Perspective is hard to come by because it doesn’t come naturally.
- You have to seek out perspective.
- Talk to your wife about having a better perspective before you’re in an argument with each other.
- Let me know how your marriage is going and if this helped you gain a better perspective on your situation.
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Can'tFindThingsInFrontOfMeitis
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I can’t find anything in the fridge and it’s not my fault, it’s genetic.
Things to spot series. I love them! My dog ate them so I needed to get more for our son.
Sara says we should get a things to spot in the fridge book.
When I was a kid my mom would send me down to this pantry. It was like staring at one of those pictures that if you stare at long enough your eyes magically show a picture within a picture…but I could never do it!
“You don’t look at the picture” – Then what do I look at?
So what is it that you genetically stink at?
I’m not saying you’ll ever defeat it, it’s a lot like sin in that way.
You CAN improve it though.
- Picking up things around the house – MUCH better.
- Putting clothes in the hamper
- Doing stuff around the house
- Turning off devices at home…well, still working on that.
How do you deal with it? Do you get angry and wait for them to change tomorrow? Do you yell louder?
How’s that working for you?
You cannot change your spouse but you can encourage your spouse to change from within.
Treat them like a dog:
- Praise them when they do it right.
- Reward them
- Make it easy for them – give good directions – Get more excited as they get closer
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- List your best friends – These are the people who would help you move.
- How long have they been married?
- How many kids do they have?
- Do you trust them to parent your children?
- How many times have they been married?
- How often do they talk about their spouse/marriage?
- How often do they ask you about your marriage?
- I believe our friend’s marriages have more of an influence than our parents marriages.
- They can point us back to our spouses or pull us away from them.
- They can be objects of lust for us or places of encouragement to love our spouse better.
- I have heard of way too many people who met in “small groups” from church or were friends with someone else’s spouse and then some strange love swap happens.
- Emotional connections should happen with the same gender – PERIOD
- I’m not advocating sitting around and talking about your feelings all day long. I’m advocating talking about your spouse in a positive way with your friends and NEVER with your friend’s spouse.
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Broke the jelly jar and glass got everywhere.
I immediately thought of one thing – “My wife did this.” This is her fault. She didn’t put the lid back on.
I got angry.
It was EVERYWHERE.
I started to clean it up – big chunks first.
Next thought – She had better appreciate that I’m cleaning up after HER since it’s HER fault.
She was upstairs with our kids. We had spent that afternoon outside playing and she spent 2 or 3 hours cleaning our home.
I’m not sure I said thank you. I probably didn’t.
Why after 5 years of marriage do I still think I’m so freakin’ special? that what I do is so important, so different than what she does?
The key to a healthy marriage is to wake up every day and NOT think of yourself first…then go throughout your day doing that again and again.
Think the best of your spouse.
Marriage is awesome…but it’s work too. BABH podcast is a source for you to learn how to be a better husband so you can have the healthy marriage you want.
