This is a passage from a book on marriage that I’ve been writing for the last few months. It is unedited for grammar and content. You can send it to read on your Kindle device by clicking the button below.
The greatest lie is also the most commonly believed lie. We believe we’re the only ones who are going through what we’re going through. We believe our experience is unique. We know it’s not true. We know that someone else somewhere is feeling the pain, frustration or confusion that we’re feeling but still we think we’re the only one. We know the truth is that we’re not alone but that message doesn’t make its way to our hearts. Do you remember going to a haunted house? Not the real kind, the ones that charge you to then do their best to scare the crap out of you. Does anyone in line for the “haunted house” really believe that anything they’re about to see is real? They know the truth but that truth is not as strong as their experience. Our present reality is always stronger than a preexisting truth. Our reality, our experience is more valid than the truth that we’re not alone. Trying to believe that we’re not alone is like trying to carry on a conversation while a baby cries. There are some influences that will always win. There are some voices that will always be heard over the others. The voice that tells us, “You’re the only one.” Is the voice we believe more than any other.