You’re in the habit of being hard on yourself. I do it too.
You’re doing it in the name of self-improvement. You’ve got weight to lose, muscle to add, strategies to implement, products to launch, podcasts to produce, books to write.
You live under the shadow of what you should be doing.
It’s counterproductive.
I should be…
I shouldn’t be….
I should have…
Stop “shoulding” all over yourself. (highlight to share)
You’re not broken; you’re just not finished yet. (highlight to share that)
You’ve got areas you can improve but you’re not a hot mess just because you’re not like the heroes you follow on social media.
The problem with self-improvement is that we spend so much energy focusing only on our gaps.
When all we see are our gaps, we become an enemy of our success. (highlight to share)
Would You Be Friends With Critical You?
Would you be friends with someone who talked to you the way you talk to yourself? My friend Jon asked me that question once, and I told him I’d hate that guy. If I hate that guy, then it makes sense why many days I hate myself. I sabotage my success by focusing only on what’s broken.
If you wouldn’t pursue a friendship with someone who talks to you like you talk to yourself, then you need to change the way you talk to yourself.
No one knows our faults more than we do. That doesn’t mean we should spend all day focusing on them.
We can’t do our best work as parents, creators, and friends starting from a place of defeat.
Do You Believe You Are Well Made?
What if you believed you were fearfully and wonderfully made? How much better would you sleep if you believed that you had value before you made anything. You had value before you did anything.
Where Do You Look?
Start each day reminding yourself that you’re not a failure unless you choose to look only at your failures.
You’re doing a lot of things right.
Today, start there.
Tomorrow, start there again.
You’re awesome. Go be more awesome.
