If you’re doing work that matters then you’re going to experience disappointment. You can dwell on it, default to it, or drive by it.
Dwelling keeps you stuck in self-pity and doesn’t improve anything.
Defaulting to it is a surrender. It’s pessimism. It’s misery.
Driving by happens when we acknowledge it, learn from it, and then keep going on the road to achievement.
Envy is an easy emotion
Envy comes quickly.
Your envy muscles are strong because you’ve been trained by advertisers to want, all the time.
The internet filters everything
When you feel envy what you’re really saying it, “I want their filtered experience more than my unfiltered experience.”
Of course you do! Filtered, cropped, and edited is always better than our real life. It’s also not realistic.
Instead of wishing and wanting I want to encourage you to take action to end envy.
Three Things You Can Do To Curb Your Envy
1. Unfollow – Unfollow people on social network that make you feel like you’re missing out on life.
2. Be Grateful – Set a three-minute timer and type out everything you’re grateful for. You’ll probably need a lot more time.
3. Ship – Create something and publish it online.
On Wednesday I’ll Teach You How To Publish Online
I felt envy for people that were making things online until I started creating.
I bought a simple program called Screenflow*** and started producing videos to put on YouTube. Some of them have received tens of thousands of views and eventually brought me income as my authority grew.
When you do the work you feel less envy
I want to help you do the work.
I want you to know how to create online teachings that reach a lot of people. Whether you sell them or not is up to you, but after Wednesday you’ll know how to make them.
*** – Affiliate link. Thanks for helping feed my kids if you buy Screenflow. There’s a trial version too so you can try it before you buy it.
You got on a plane.
You got an Uber.
You rented a hotel room.
— SocialMedia Examiner (@SMExaminer) April 16, 2016
You’re attending a live session (which you’ll get a recording of).
Foolish: You can sit back and be critical.
Shallow: You can stare at your phone and follow the chatter on Twitter.
Distracted: You can live-tweet.
Copy-cat: You can take notes on your laptop.
Sponge: You can listen with empty hands, and be fully present.
Connector:You can skip the session, and build a new relationship in the hall.
Just because you’re in a crowd doesn’t mean you have to follow it. Take permission.
You have the privilege and the responsibility of choice.
You can take a walk with your kids.
You can play a game on your phone.
You can drive a different route to work.
You can read the wisdom of others.
You can eat the kind of food you feel like eating.
You can send tweets.
You can record music
You can teach others anywhere in the world.
You can write words that will exist after you’re dead.
You can take a nap.
You can bless a stranger with a gift.
The problem with our multitude of options is most of them don’t add value to us or the world.
Deep work matters.
Are you doing deep work?
You have many choices. That is a privilege and a responsibility.