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This week I hosted a web community’s call and one of the attendees mentioned that he often felt alone in his creative process. I told him that I too feel alone at times. He responded with disbelief, “Really?”
Feelings are universal
Why are we surprised that other people feel the exact same way we do? The President of the United States feels alone at times. The guy who made your Big Mac yesterday feels alone. These are universal emotions and for some reason (that I think I know) you still label them as unique to you.
It’s an excuse
You do this so that you have an excuse. Actually, we do this. I do it too. If we’re the only one who feels that way then no one can help us. There’s no solution because no one understands. That’s a lie. You’ve never felt something that someone else didn’t also feel.
Stop feeling like you’re the only one who struggles with too many or not enough ideas, being patient with your spouse or finding motivation to work. You’re normal so do something about it. Discouragement isn’t going away so it’s your job to feed yourself a steady diet of encouragement.
Actions to take
- Ask God for help.
- Spend $10 for a book.
- Call a friend who will let you whine then tell you to get over it.
- Go for a drive without a destination in mind.
- Get on your knees and apologize for whatever you broke in a relationship.
You can fix it
Do whatever you have to do fix how you’re feeling but don’t think for another minute you’re the only one who feels that way. That’s a crutch that allows you to wallow in self pity. Join the club. We’re all screwed up, scared and thrashing through life trying to find the path we were meant for. You’re not alone so stop acting like it.
Are you done feeling sorry for yourself? I do it all the time. It’s useless. Take that energy and go make something awesome, play with your kids, take your wife on a date or buy your favorite South Dakotan blogger a new 16GB iPad 2 from the Apple Refurb store.
Life’s too short to feel alone so remember that you’re not. Now get back to living.
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